Ask yourself these questions to break through barriers to success

If you didn’t wake up tomorrow, what part of your life would remain unlived? What would people say about the type of person you were?

I ask this question because there are many factors involved in discovering how to break through barriers to achieve success. First, ask yourself: Do I really want success, and what does that mean to me?

Who are you?

Think about what would make you feel successful. To define this properly, we have to ask ourselves, who are we really? And that has to do with our values.

We tend to think of ourselves as our role — as financial advisors or a father or a mother. Instead, I’m trying to get you to think about your core values. Because when you get to where you can just show up, and your values are aligned with your goals, it makes many of your life decisions very, very easy.

So when we know exactly who we are, what we do and don’t do, what we accept and what we don’t accept, and what our boundaries are, we can be very focused. And when we get focused, many obstacles no longer stop us.

What do you want?

Once you know who you are, then you have to talk about what it is that you really want. You can make it something short-term if you want. If you’re striving to make Court of the Table for the first time, fine. Top of the Table, fine. Lose 10 pounds, fine. Whatever your goal is, just define it.

Write down a couple of things that would be important to you in your life, in the short-term, mid-term or long-term.

Why do you want it?

Is it for the money? Is it for the financial security? Is it for the ego? Is it for the status? Is it for the sense of accomplishment? Come up with something that is your “why,” and write it down.

When we know who we are and what we’re all about, we become very comfortable in our own skin. And we can show up saying, “This is who I am. This is what I want to do. And this is why I want to do it.” Everything is clear and well-defined.

When you know who you are, that becomes your foundation for everything. And when you know what you want, that becomes your mission. And the “why” becomes your fuel, the source of your passion.

It makes it simple because if you know exactly what you want, and you know why you want it, then you build all your systems around that. All your decisions come back to that, and anything that tries to get into your thinking that is contrary is just a distraction.

It’s a distraction because it doesn’t measure up with who you are, the boundaries you set for yourself, the values you put in place that are important to you, and it doesn’t match up with your “why.” So it’s easier to make decisions. Especially when we’re so busy and our resources are just tapped out.

Steven A. Plewes, ChFC, CLU, is a 32-year MDRT member from Naples, Florida. Read more in “Removing barriers to success”